Sunday, 30 August 2009
Monday, 17 August 2009
Today I feel like this.
A big, in your face, cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeese!
Oh rapturous joy!
The kids were whisked off to my mother-in-laws by Hubby on Friday night, for TWO whole weeks.
The woman is a god-send.
Once a year she usually has one or other of them for a couple of weeks. Last year she didn't have either of them because we had a bit of a row. (It was over Hubby's deranged brother. The bloke has a few screws loose and would definitely benefit from a good long stretch at Her Majesty's Pleasure, but that's another story). Anyway, this year she has decided to take BOTH of them.
I feel overwhelmed with the sense of freedom. It is so liberating - like a breath of fresh air.
For the past two days I have been partying with Liam and his new girlfriend, Abbi, who I might add, is a little gem! She hasn't got that 'mad cow' look, like the previous one (Rhino) had.
I have been going to bed at 6.30am and 4.30am and sleeping until 2.00pm. I feel like a 'Singleton' again.
Everything is where I left I it. There are no rows, I do not have to think about how to entertain the kids, bribe them to shower, plan meals, constantly clean up, chauffeur around, skivvy, referee, in fact I don't have to think at all!
Oh, how I have missed this! I had forgotten just how pleasant life can be.
However, this new found freedom has gone to my head a bit.
I went shoe-shopping for TWO hours! (This is unheard of, especially when Olly is with me. 30 mins at the most - he cant take much more than that, especially if we're not shopping for him).
These are my normal day to day shoes, when its not pissing it down:
A functional, yet practical pair of flip-flops. Slip them on, kick them off. Easy.
This is what I bought:
Look at the frigging heel on that!!! I have gone totally nuts???
I cant even walk three feet in them, let alone walk down the street.
Do they look like 'Slapper' shoes?
Apparently, this is what I waste my money on when I am giddy with 'freedom'. Eight inch heeled, platformed hooker shoes!
And talking of freedom, I'm not wasting a second of it. I've decided to go with Hubby to Singapore, then on to Sydney and then back to Singapore - all in a week. Only trouble is, I'm not sure I can get back to London, its jammed coming home, so I maybe stuck out there for a bit.
I'm not sure if I'll have access to a computer, so if I don't post or comment on your blogs - its not because I don't love you, its because I'm temporarily incapacitated or possibly intoxicated with Singapore Slings!
Still, I'm sure my new 'Slapper' shoes will keep me company. Hopefully they will be on their best behaviour and not show me up by pulling someone for a handful of dollars!
Venetian Blind Update
The bloody blinds finally reached The Netherlands. My mother is staying with my sister for a few days so they flew out with her as well as two large tins of water-based paint! I'm surprised they let her on with that lot. Apparently it was all considered as her 'Hold' luggage, so the poor woman had to stuff a week's worth of clothes in a bag considered 'Hand' luggage.
I get my results via email between the hours of Monday 6.30pm and Tuesday 1.00am. I will either be a student again on Tuesday, or I will be qualified.
Life is weird isn't it?
In one little day your working life can change.................'Student' equals conformity and 'Qualified' equals freedom.
Exam update: I passed.
Wednesday, 12 August 2009
Friday, 7 August 2009
Wednesday, 5 August 2009
The last few weeks of Olly's primary schooling was extremely difficult. He had lots of plays to do and what with all the impending change at primary school and the change to senior school in September, it all got too much for him.
He freaked out big time.
This particular incident was shocking - even for me! I thought I had seen everything, but I was mistaken.
I am too ashamed to write a description of the incident. But zero tolerance is exhibited in any country or culture of an incident of this nature. I was appalled enough to threaten him with the police and social services to get him removed from our home. And if it happens again, I will call them.
Sometimes I am at my wits end. You do your absolute best, to try to be a good mother, to raise a child to be a good, law-abiding adult, to lead a happy and successful life, but when a child is on the Autistic Spectrum, quite frankly, you have your work cut out.
I feel like I keep banging my head against a brick wall.
You do all this work, attend appointments, ASC Support groups, get the diagnosis, get a good school for him, get him surrounded by people who, (supposedly), understand him and basically work your bloody arse off in doing what is best for him (and your life becomes his life), then he goes and does something that he could go to prison for. Asperger's Syndrome or no Asperger's Syndrome.
Sometimes I feel like I'm fighting for a lost cause.
Over the last four weeks I have walked on egg-shells for him. Pussy-footed around him, just to get through the last week or so of school. I have bend over backwards trying to keep peace and harmony around him, so he can get through this difficult time and I have never worked so hard in my life!
Even when I had three jobs and studied, nothing is quite as exhausting as Olly.
You would think that he would be happy now, with no school to go to? Well he isn't. He is miserable. A miserable git!
He is attending a holiday club, just in the afternoons for 2 weeks. It barely equates to 3 hours a day. I drop him off late and pick him up early, just so I can do my chores - shopping or house cleaning or some other monotonous crap!
He seems to think I have a 'jolly' time without him, that I kick up my heels, go dancing, or that he is missing out on something. I have to give him a full description of my 3 hours when I pick him up!
It beggars belief!!!!
And the miserableness is catching..........I cried today because he just stomps around, crashing things about, moaning, always looking like a great thunder cloud is hanging over his head (he has that dark, moody look) and the continual and habitual arguing with his sister.............Its enough to drive a sane person mad and take to the hills!
However, instead of running for the hills, I have booked a day out tomorrow in London with Hubby and the kids to try to lift morale.
Hopefully, the Asperger's roller coaster will level out slightly. We can but live in hope!
Sunday, 2 August 2009
As I am taking a little flight this month with Hubby (He does not work for any of these airlines, I hastily add), but I wanted to show you who he has to work with!
Ole Madam up there no doubt!
Yeah, he mentions the poofs but not the birds!
So, here's a little joke for you.......................
What is a Meme?????
Anyhow, the Rules are as follows:
I'd like to get to know you better, answer these questions and pass them on.
1. Who is the hottest movie star?
Johnny Depp - I just swoon!
2. Apart from your house and your car, what is the most expensive item you've ever bought?Must be tickets to travel somewhere, as I cannot see any items of any value anywhere in this god-forsaken house! A burglar would be most disappointed.
3. What is your most treasured memory
Giving birth 3 times and knowing that I will never ever have to do that again!
4. What is the best gift you received as a child?
Having known my Maternal grandparents for 17 years. I wouldn't have missed that for the world. Fabulous people. And having my friend Lou. Still mates after god-knows how many years.
5. What's the biggest mistake you've made?
Cant one have 3 mistakes? (oops)
6. 4 words to describe yourself
Enough or do you want more! How can you ever describe yourself? I think the other people are more qualified!
7. What was your highlight or low light of 2008?
Highlight - miserable old grandad (the other one) popped his cloggs - Low light - he stiffed my father for his inheritance and my aunt tried to hide what he did have.
With lawyers and solicitors I got it back for him.
8. Favourite film
Gone with the Wind......I shall never go hungry again!
9. Tell me one thing I don't know about you
I was born in East London.
10. If you were a comic book/strip or cartoon character who would you be?
Beryl the Peril.
OK, so pass it on:
A Modern Mother
Amy At And1moremeans4four
The Ice Queen over at the Constant Chill Factor
Dottie at Bringing up charlie
Woman at work
Miss Leslieanne at life with a little dude
Fraught Mummy at Brits in Bosnia
Right, that's another one done. I've got another to do - but I really don't know how to answer it.
PS My pizza arrived one hour and 45 Min's late!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Saturday, 1 August 2009
The Rules are:
1) Mention the person who tagged you
2) Complete the list of 8's
3) Tag 8 others and let them know.
8 Things I am looking forward to:
1) Kids back at school - yeah, I'm shagged already!
2) When they all finally grow up, bugger off and not keep coming back like boomerangs. (It has been a very hard and long, long day!)
3) Getting the results of my exam (mid-August).
4) Travelling to Singapore in mid-August and maybe Oz. Not sure whether to do both - if I do, I have to travel to both places within 8 days!
5) Getting stuck in Singapore because there are not enough seats to come home. (This I really dont mind one bit, because I will be on my own. At last!)
6) Stuffing a pizza tonight. It's on its way!
7) Stuffing chocolate straight after the pizza.
8) Waiting until everyone has gone to bed so I can stuff more chocolate!
8 Things I did yesterday
I really cant remember - will today do instead?
1) Made lunch for kids
2) Went to Gay Pride Parade
3) Missed Gay Pride Parade - we got there too late!
4) Shopped with kids for clothes as they look like ragga-muffins.
5) Bought kids hot dogs to stuff in their mouths to stop them moaning and arguing.
6) Bus packed on the way home and kids still arguing - told bus driver to stop bus and throw them off. He reprimanded me for being a bad mother.
7) Treated all 3 kids to pizza, (guilt) but everybody wanted something different. More arguments ensued.
8) Have jammed earplugs into ears in attempt to block out the noise.
8 Things I wish I could do
2) Fly away
3) Run away
4) Been born a man
5) Been born a rich man
6) Have more freedom
7) Have any kind of freedom
8) Be someone else
8 Places I would like to Travel to
3) Machu Pichu
8) Las Vegas
8 Places I've travelled to
2) New York
8) Los Angeles
and many, many more! I looooove to travel!
8 People to tag
Zooarcheologist at Being a Mummy
Grit over at Grit's Day - she really makes me laugh!
Muddynosugar at How I like my coffee
Jenny over at The cigarette Diaries
Joanna at The Fifty Factor
Chic Mum over at 4sprogs
Laura at Arewenearlythereyetmummy
and Sandy over at Baby Baby
I have some more tags to do so I'll be getting on with that until my pizzas get here. They are is still not here!!! Where are they???? This wouldnt happen in the states you know!